tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5027101598548156839.post8959037636863241159..comments2011-03-22T04:46:07.516-07:00Comments on Lady very much in waiting: Plasticlady_waiting_impatientlyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10093859587005936048noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5027101598548156839.post-31373602264822641102011-03-22T04:46:07.516-07:002011-03-22T04:46:07.516-07:00Which was rather my point - I've always been r...Which was rather my point - I've always been reluctant as well, because I just can't see how battery-operated plastic can realistically substitute for 'the real deal'. Scientifically speaking, a huge amount of arousal for most women is the aural, tactile, visual and emotional stimulation that a flesh-and-blood partner provides, and without that, I don't think the experiences are in any way comparable. For someone with no experience of sex with a partner, particularly if they have body or self-esteem issues that have played a part in their inexperience, I rather doubt that imagination is enough to supply a sufficient stimulus, and the purely physical can be frustrating in its' inadequacy. <br /><br />The deeper problem of course is that these aids are marketed quite aggressively as a sure route to sexual pleasure for women. Failure to achieve the release that seems so easily and effortlessly attainable, according to popular culture and advertising, from such physical stimulation could very easily add to the issues experienced by someone of limited or no experience - the whole, hideous 'frigid' label is still a big issue for many women - and when paired with other issues, and/or any sense of being 'defective' in some way to have remained virginal for a longer-than-average time, it could be very damaging indeed.<br /><br />It seems to me, stereotypes coming out to play, that women are being encouraged more and more to view sex in a way more typical, traditionally, of males. Unfortunately, what this trend tends to ignore, is that for many, if not most women, sex, or sexual-substitute, without intimacy is simply not enough. Experienced women in sexual relationships report high levels of unsatisfactory ie. non-orgasmic sex, especially when the relationshiop is not emotionally intimate. Not to say that emotional intimacy is a guarantee or orgasm, but it does seem to improve the chances! Obviously intimacy of this kind also enhances the experience for many men, but physical pleasure/release is undeniably more easily attained for the male of the species, and usually achievable without any emotional connection. <br /><br />Essentially, what I've taken a post-length reply to say is: I'm not sure how much good 'plastic' does for an inexperienced female, and it may very well do some mental and/or emotional harm.lady_waiting_impatientlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10093859587005936048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5027101598548156839.post-30639866376199198412011-03-21T21:46:56.036-07:002011-03-21T21:46:56.036-07:00i've somehow always been hesitant to use plast...i've somehow always been hesitant to use plastic. i just don't think i'll be comfortable with that. but i mean, whatever floats your boat right?johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16046420719365885236noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5027101598548156839.post-83220376788870692262011-03-08T13:21:23.846-08:002011-03-08T13:21:23.846-08:00I'm not a virgin but I can hopefully shed a li...I'm not a virgin but I can hopefully shed a little light on this. In my experience, I need to at least have someone on my mind to fantasize about while using some form of stimulation, whether it's from myself or a toy. I have to have someone on my mind or I can't climax. I think that you'd be able to as long as you have someone to picture.Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09141736828805718554noreply@blogger.com